We'd love to hear your story. How are you preparing for the arrival of your new addition? 

What a wonderful story! I would love to hear how the birth moms knew each other. Are the birth mothers still in touch, and do they see pictures, etc. of the babies?

Nala08,

I found an adoptive family for my son about 6 years before I had my daughter.  I knew I wasn't ready to be a parent when I found out I was pregnant with my son.  I wasn't sure when I had my daughter, but I was in a much better position finacially and emotionally, plus, her father and I were still together and he wanted to be a part of her life (we are still together and she just turned one).  I don't regret finding parents for my son who would be able to give him the love and support I just didn't think I would be able to give him when he was born. 

Not raising my son myself didn't change the way I feel about my daughter.  I love her with all my heart.  But I still stand by my choice with adoption for my son.  We did an open adoption so I get updates periodically and when he is older, I am okay with him knowing about me and possibly meeting me, but I know I wasn't able to provide for him when he was born. 

 Your daughter may have some rough times when she second guess her current parenting abilities, so you need to make sure you support her and give her the unconditional love that a child needs and she should be just fine.  I know I am.  :) 

Nala, I can relate to your sister very well. It takes alot of love to be able to send your child to live with total strangers. But, even though she gave her first child away, I believe she can definatly be strong enough to keep this next child, and give it double the love.

Also, she could look into the agency her baby was put in to and maybe look into an open adoption. She could recieve photo's, maybe even one day meet that child. Just because she isn't raising the first child doesn't mean she can't have the second one. I'm sure she'll feel upset now and then, but that is the natural emotion of a parent longing for their baby. And she needs to remember she is still that childs mother, and nothing will ever change that.