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Umm...Yeah...What are you guys doing about the "falling out" "temper tantrums"?

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langsmommy

Joined on 08-20-2008

Posts: 2

Umm...Yeah...What are you guys doing about the "falling out" "temper tantrums"?

I love my son, I really do. But every time, and I do mean every, I say something he doesn't agree with he hits the floor. And hard too! He sometimes will sit down cautiously and lay back gently, then roll and kick a bit. He hasn't yet learned about the noise element that he could add, so I'm feeling lucky so far. But I have got to do something quick to curb this behavior and I mean, so fast.

I have tried implementing a new reaction to his "moments." When I see him give me that look of defiance. I wait, if he starts to fall or sit, I :

1. Get on his level.

2. Hold him firmly, yet gently.

3. Say firmly, "We don't do that." I have this thing about saying NO to him. I really do not want to start that phase early! 8-I

4. Keep him standing, until his "moment" is over.

5. Then he's on to the next thing.

 

So far so good, I think! It seems simple enough, but can be harrowing after about 30 times a day!

What are some of your methods???

AmandaS44967

Joined on 11-13-2009

Posts: 2

Re: Umm...Yeah...What are you guys doing about the "falling out" "temper tantrums"?

When my girl first started throwing tantrums I did the same thing.  I got down on her level and tell her it's not right to act that way.  it worked for  a little while.  Then I started ignoring her.  When she looks like she is going to throw a fit for whatever reason i ask her if she is sure she wants to do that.  When she continues to carry on i turn away from her until the fit is over.  Maybe all he needs or even wants is some tough love.  Set the rules down early and let him know exactly what you will and won't tolerate.  Don't be afraid to get creative and think of ways to show him you love him, but his unruly actions are not wanted.  Hope that helps you!

langsmommy

Joined on 08-20-2008

Posts: 2

Re: Umm...Yeah...What are you guys doing about the "falling out" "temper tantrums"?

Thanks Amanda. Right now he's still having his "moments," but I've started another technique. I'm not really for the "time out" or "ignoring" methods. It just seems like a form of ostracism too tough for a LO. So now I alternate between "my method" and redirecting. If he starts his "moment," I pick him up and introduce his attention to something else fun or exciting. We're actually having far less episodes as time goes by. With his increasing vocabulary, I believe his frustration level is starting to go down. Yet only just a bit!

 Take care of your angel!

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